If you know Ryan or me very well, you’d know that we’re not the first people to want to hold someone else’s baby at a gathering, or to volunteer for nursery duty at church. I’ve always said that I’m either having zero kids or four, leaning more towards zero. In Haiti, literally everywhere you go, when you see a Haitian you’ve talked to before, they ask you, “Why don’t you have kids,” or “When are you going to have kids?” My typical response is, “I have cats.” And they laugh but continue to press on for more answers.
Sparing you the details, which if you know me well, you know that I am also not good at talking about subjects like this, Ryan and I suspected that we may… possibly … be expecting. After putting if off for a few weeks, we decided to go buy a pregnancy test. Now I didn’t want to get one from the Heartline Maternity Center because I wasn’t ready for ANYONE to know. And I couldn’t go to Delimart, our regular grocery store, because every time we go there, all the cashiers ask us when we will have kids, so they would have FREAKED out! So we found some obscure store and pulled up on our motorcycle.
Ryan, being the gentleman that he is, decided that he needed to stay out and “watch the bike” rather than going in with me on this dreaded trip. Thanks husband So I go in to the pharmacy and ask for a “bagay pou tcheke si ou ansent” (thing to check if you’re pregnant). After repeating myself a few times, the man said, “Pregnancy test?” I guess I could have just used English. So he gave me one, and I concealed it well in the bag and we zipped home on the moto.
Well, after taking that test, and then going back to the same place and buying another one the next day (from the same man who remembered me), the tests came back POSITIVE! CRAZY!!!! We were (and still are) a bit in shock, but are also super excited. It’s unbelievable to me how neither of us ever really thought we’d have kids, but as soon as we found this out, it was pure joy!
Not really sure what to do next, I called my friend Melissa who has lived in Haiti about half her life and is a nurse/midwife. Her and her husband just moved to the States, however, her husband happened to be back here needing to work a few weeks still. He is an OBGYN, and had a shift at the hospital the next day! She said we could go in for a sonogram. Thank you Lord!
So it would be our first experience in a Haitian hospital, and we had no idea what to expect. We were pleasantly surprised, as it was neat and clean. He met us with a huge smile and congratulations. I got on the exam table and he started the sonogram. At this point I still had doubts that this was actually happening and we were really pregnant. But the first second he started it, he said, “Yep, there it is.” Aaaahhhh! It was crazy. And so cool. There’s actually something in there! And moving around!
So, God willing, Ryan and I will add another member to our family mid-November. I can’t believe I just wrote that sentence, but I am finally convinced that it’s true. We are excited for the next part of this journey, and wanted to share our news with you!